I wanted to take a brief detour in this blog and write to new law graduates. Congratulations, you're a lawyer! Or not, because right now, though you've just earned your degree, you've not yet passed the all-important Bar--so near, yet so far! Though most of you are likely now preparing for the Bar exam, I thought I would share with you some of what I've learned in the past 11 years of practice.
Of course, you all know that in law school, and as new lawyers, there have been and will be scores of individuals imparting unsolicited advice, and now I join them. However, rather than specifically giving advice, I'll just share a little about my experiences as a new lawyer. Specifically, I'd like to share five things I wish I'd done a
little differently after passing the Bar. Of course, everyone's experience is different, and my perspective is colored by my own. I left school to work for what was initially a small, family-owned law firm in a small town in North Carolina, initially doing a general legal practice. I didn't go to work at a big city law corporation, or as an in-house counsel, or even as an assistant district attorney. All of those attorneys would have their own starting-out experiences that might differ from mine. Nevertheless, below are five things that I wished I'd done differently as a new lawyer.
1. I WOULD HAVE TAKEN TIME OFF BEFORE STARTING WORK.
When I took the North Carolina Bar in 1998, there was a period of approximately three to four weeks between taking the exam and finding out if I'd passed. I walked out of my examination room, got in my car, and went to the beach. But then, mere days later, I started my job and legal career for what likely would be the next four decades. To be fair, my employer didn't push me to start so soon--in fact, he frankly told me that he'd rather that I wait until I'd passed before starting, warning me that it would be very embarrassing if I started work and then had to quit because I'd failed the Bar. But I didn't listen to him, and started immediately. Part of it was that I was sick of being broke--I'd spent all summer as a 25-year-old man, living off my parents and their money, and I was ready for a paycheck. Plus, I'd worked for three years, and I was ready--chomping at the bit almost--to be an attorney. So, after a brief vacation at the beach, I began working during August 1998 as an "almost-lawyer"--going through training and learning my way, praying to God I passed the Bar, and working, always working.
What I should have done was what my boss suggested I do--simply take time off and enjoy myself until I'd passed the Bar in late August. Sure, I didn't have any money, but I was living at home for free--what did I need? I'd gone through four years of college, long preparatory courses to take the LSAT, three long years in law school, and a very difficult summer studying for the Bar. What was three weeks, after all of that?
More importantly, that time will likely have been the last time in my life--until retirement--that I would be able to take off three consecutive weeks from work. I could've spent a week at the beach, a week at home, and perhaps a week driving around the country (with a little money borrowed from my parents, of course). In any event, I could've lived and savored that time a little more.
Granted, in some states (such as Georgia, where my most of my classmates ended up), new graduates don't learn of the Bar results until around Thanksgiving, so practically, they can't simply vacate until the results come in. But they can take off some time. And for those of you who only have to wait a few weeks until passing the Bar, I would highly recommend that, if possible, you just enjoy yourself. Sure, you'll be nervous, as you await the results. But you can soak in all that you've recently accomplished and been through. And if you look at the odds, odds are, you're going to pass. Why not enjoy what may well be the last long vacation you take for decades?
2. I WOULD HAVE NOT TAKEN MYSELF SO SERIOUSLY.
In 1998, I'd just graduated from a high-tier law school. I'd studied the Bar--and I'd passed it. I was ready to set the world on fire! I suspect that most of my peers felt the same way. Coming into my new firm, I was ready to be ..... A LAWYER (trumpets sounding, please). At least, that was the music playing in my head.
I felt like I was a walking encyclopedia of the law, and was ready to take on any case or cause that came my way. I had my degree after all. I came in ready to show people how law should be practiced. Ok, maybe I didn't so clearly enunciate this 11 years ago, but at least that's how I acted. The truth of the matter--as most lawyers who've practiced a while will tell you--is that as a new lawyer I knew almost nothing. I'd learned a lot of cases, I'd learned how to research, but as a practical matter, law school didn't teach me or my classmates how to actually practice law on a daily basis. I had so much more to learn: about law, about how to treat people, and about how to be a good attorney.
Had I learned earlier on not to take myself so seriously (and I'm still learning this), I could've saved myself some grief. It doesn't matter that you're suddenly boss over a paralegal twice your age with half your education, and it doesn't matter that coming straight out of school you may be making more than her: truth is, she probably knows a heck of a lot more about day-to-day law than you do. Had I understood that more quickly instead of trying to show them what I knew, I'd have gotten along better with staff, and frankly learned a lot more in a shorter amount of time.
There is a biblical passage that, paraphrased, states the fear of the Lord is the beginning of wisdom. New lawyers, in your new career, the beginning of wisdom is to know how truly little you know, and how unimportant you are in the grand scheme of life. Paralegals, court officials, clerks--even bankers--will often know way more about the law than you do at the beginning. If you can keep this in mind, it will help you not take yourself so seriously. I learned this--but unfortunately not as quickly as I should have.
3. I WOULD HAVE NOT SPREAD MYSELF SO THIN IN MY PERSONAL LIFE.
When I first got out of school, I was so excited to regain some of the free time I'd lost in law school. I immediately tried to put that time to use. I picked up teaching a Sunday School class, volunteered at church events, and helped out some with my church's youth group. Of course, I did all of this after my 7 a.m. to 7 p.m. days at the office, often coming in on Saturdays as well to keep caught up. Still, it felt great to have all this extra time freed up from studying to, well, be productive. Eventually, however, it wore me down. I was a single guy, so I would get up, work out at 6:00 a.m., and, after working a long day, come home, fix whatever was easiest to put in a microwave, eat, watch a couple of hours of television, then go to bed to do it all over again. On some Fridays I'd help out with church functions. On Saturdays, I spent all day doing housework and yardwork--mowing my yard, ironing my dress shirts (!), and trying to manage my newly acquired home. On Sundays, I got up and taught Sunday School, always frustrated at the poor job I felt like I was doing. And then, on Sunday afternoon--sweet Sunday afternoons--for about three hours, I had a blissful period of rest, to nap, watch tv, or do nothing, before going back to church at night. Three sweet hours, out of the entire week, to simply do nothing. Of course, lots of times I couldn't enjoy that time because I was too worried about all the things I had to do on Monday.
New lawyers, it is very likely that your first few years of practice will be stressful, difficult, and involve long hours of work. That's just the unfortunate nature of the beast, the path you've chosen--at least for a while, as you hope to earn your stripes. Don't take on too much in the beginning with other obligations that you don't have to take on. In retrospect, perhaps I should've waited a while to be more active at church, so that I could've given it better attention. And I should've realized that, with home ownership, comes a lot of additional responsibility and work. Had I realized how much work a home entailed, I might have picked a house that had a smaller yard, or was newer and required less upkeep.
Speaking of my house.....
4. I WOULD HAVE NOT SPREAD MYSELF SO THIN FINANCIALLY.
That first paycheck I received as a lawyer was the biggest I'd ever held in my hand, but very quickly, I learned that it didn't go very far. I was actually pretty thrifty at first, and didn't waste my money. However, I subscribed to the prevailing wisdom of the time, which was to "buy as much house as you can afford." The thinking, at that time, was that if you bought more than just a beginner house, you could live in it for more years before wanting to upgrade. That part is true: ten years later, my wife and I are still living in my original bachelor house. On the other hand, though, by buying as much home as I could afford, I really spread myself thin financially.
I constantly worried about money, and lived on a very regimented budget. I worried about unforeseen expenses arising, and what I would do if a surprise house expense or medical expense came up. I had absolutely no discretionary spending money--I had $20 to spend for eating out in a week, and couldn't even budget for a movie! I couldn't even afford to take my dress shirts to the cleaners, which meant I spent every Saturday afternoon slowly ironing and starching French cuff dress shirts, eating up what precious free time I had.
If I'd simply bought a smaller, less expensive house, I wouldn't have been so financially bound. I could have saved up "rainy day" money for emergencies (thank God none came up during that first year). I could have gone on vacations with friends. I could have lived a little bit more.
5. I WOULD HAVE REEVALUATED MY LIFE AND PRACTICE EARLIER.
Most of us who enter the law practice have definite ideas of where we want our future to lead. In fact, we probably have had those ideas for some time. In college, we wanted to get into a good law school. In law school, we wanted to get a good job. Once we got that job, we then wanted to make partner, become the District Attorney, General Counsel, whatever. I'd had that focus going into my job.
But what I didn't do early on--that I wished I'd done--was to on a regular basis evaluate where I was in my practice, and where I really wanted to be. See the distinction? Instead of constantly asking myself, "How can I get more clients, a bigger salary, an equal partnership," I should have also been asking myself more soul-searching questions; questions like:
--Do I like the people for whom I'm working? (I did, and I still do);
--Do I like my particular area of law practice? (I did not, and didn't realize this until about six years into my practice);
--Is this what I'd hoped I'd be doing, when I was in law school?
--Do I want to be doing what I'm doing now twenty years from now?
--Are there better and different ways for me to do what I'm doing?
In my relentless search for all those things we lawyers want (success, however it is defined), I didn't, early on, ask myself these really important questions. Granted, as a new lawyer, your life is not likely to be a bed of roses. You don't get to name your hours, your practice area, or your salary. Hey, that's the game you and I have chosen to play, and you have to understand that in your first few years of law practice, life isn't going to always be easy. But what you shouldn't forget is that--for whatever reason you decided to practice law, not one of us said, "I want to go to law school so I can get out, be a lawyer, work a job and a practice I hate, and be miserable the rest of my life."
For five or six years, I walked around constantly stressed, harried, tired and worried--as a result of the practice I was in. It started innocuously enough, because I knew as a beginning lawyer that things would be tough. But as days turned into months, months then turned into years. I didn't stop to evaluate myself or where I was heading. I didn't ask myself why my stomach was tied in knots, why I lost my temper so much more quickly than before, or why I'd become a much different person than the one who'd entered law school.
Had I simply evaluated my life and my practice early on, I probably could have steered my path more quickly from a practice area that frankly was not for me, in the process, saving myself a few years of stress. Don't misunderstand me: your life as a new lawyer is NOT going to be easy. But don't let yourself fall into the trap of many lawyers, and let your career become one long period of stress and unhappiness. Evaluate yourself and your practice, at least on a yearly basis. Ask yourself some of the above questions!
New law grads, once again, I offer congratulations. Already, by getting this far, you really have accomplished something. You now stand before potentially fulfilling and lucrative legal careers, and I hope you can learn, more quickly than I, some of the lessons above.
